Everything Does NOT Happen for a Reason, So Stop Saying That!

“Well, everything happens for a reason.” My friend says with a sigh. I know she means well. The comment is meant to bring me comfort, and help her feel that she is connecting with my pain, on some level. It is the sort of thing people say when they don’t know what to say. But […]

Sorry. Not Sorry

Our Anniversary would have been Monday. It would have been thirty-eight years. 38. That is a lifetime. My whole life. Mostly wasted on a man who became emotionally and morally bankrupt. This week, for me, has been filled with shame, regret and deep sadness. I am in mourning.  I mourn what we had in the […]

What I Would Tell My Ex-Husband this Christmas if I Could Talk to Him…

Here I am again, another Christmas, alone.  This is not how I envisioned it when I discovered my husband’s multiple infidelities over two years ago.  I thought by this Christmas that it would all be an ugly nightmare we could begin to put behind us.  It would have been if he had the ability to […]

Trauma Response Rescues

Do you know what a “Trigger” is? A “Trigger” is any event that brings up old feelings of panic and danger even if there is no danger around.  It is a PTSD response very similar to what war veterans experience.  One minute you are fine and the next you are not.  the emotional response happens […]

He Said…She Said; The Denial Effect

The one thing keeping an addict from getting into recovery is DENIAL. Denial starts with the declaration, “I don’t have a problem!”  This is usually followed by, “You’re the problem!” Or some variation. And then the trauma begins. The more emphatic the denial by the addict, the deeper the trauma to the wife. I can […]

I Accept…

Acceptance Letter Write a letter telling your partner the things that you accept about your life as it is now.  This doesn’t mean you agree with it or approve.  It just means that you accept the way things are at this time. Acceptance is a difficult concept.  It means to acknowledge, yield, and surrender to […]

How You Nearly Destroyed Me…

Anger Letter Write a letter to your partner to share just have their addiction has impacted you.  Be specific and honest.  Do not hold back.  Tell them how angry you are and why. Because of what you did, there are some choices that I will never get to make… that is why I am so […]

Abuse, Dressed in a Suit

I used to think that because my husband was in leadership callings in the church that he should have, would have learned how he was supposed to treat his wife.  He should have known better by osmosis, I guess. I believed because he kept all outward appearances of a good, active member of the church […]

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Happily. Ever? ..After

Rising above all the bullshit after my husbands infidelity

Stop Narcissistic Abuse

Support for anyone suffering from the pain of narcissistic abuse

simple Ula

I want to be rich. Rich in love, rich in health, rich in laughter, rich in adventure and rich in knowledge. You?

MakeItUltra™ Psychology

Psychology to Motivate | Inspire | Uplift

Cooking Without Limits

Food Photography & Recipes

Dear Divorcée

Endearing Letters To The Divorcée

Life after his affair

the aftermath of an affair

Wag 'n Bietjie

Welcome! Come linger a while..

Rebuilding A Soul

Life through the lens of betrayal trauma and PTSD

try not to cry on my rainbow

Married to a sex addict. Rebuilding a relationship. The recovery journey.

Etsy Shop for PaperCupcakeWarrior

My Journey of Healing After Betrayal

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Bloom

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