Let’s Talk About Gaslighting; Knowing the Signs, and How to Stop It

If you have been cheated on and haven’t heard the terms “gaslighting” or “crazy-making” you are probably still very confused about some of your addict’s behaviors.  In 1938 there was a stage play, and later, a movie called “Gaslight.  The premise of both was a husband who systematically convinced his wife that she was insane […]

10 Things I Love About You

I have been thinking a lot about dating lately.  I have been reading books and articles online about what I want to do in this new phase of my life.  It is scary to me to be back in the dating world.  I never thought I would be here again.  And after 38 years of […]

One Year Ago…

I have been a hot mess this week.  Lot’s of crying, anxiety, panic, and fear.  I feel as if I have been sent back to where I was over a year ago, to relive it all over again. I couldn’t figure out why until I stopped to think about it.  You may not remember traumatic […]

What is Cheating?

My Ex likes to quibble over little things that do not matter. He has done this throughout our marriage to deflect the conversation from any real understanding of feelings to arguing over semantics.  Think of Bill Clinton’s definition of what IS is and you will have an idea of what it is like to have […]

Thank You for Being an Addict

I have reached that point in my own recovery where it is time for me to move on.  Everyone.  And I mean EVERYONE is begging me to move on.  I agree with them.  It is time. It’s time for me to stop obsessing about what my, then husband, or now ex-husband, has done or didn’t […]

Sorry. Not Sorry

Our Anniversary would have been Monday. It would have been thirty-eight years. 38. That is a lifetime. My whole life. Mostly wasted on a man who became emotionally and morally bankrupt. This week, for me, has been filled with shame, regret and deep sadness. I am in mourning.  I mourn what we had in the […]

So Much Hurt!

Someday All that Hurt Will Meet Justice  – I Want to Be There When it Happens As I have talked to, and read the stories of other women who are going through the same thing I am, I am struck by the commonality of hurt we all share. So much hurt is being experienced by […]

Narcissism & Sex Addiction: Twins of Pain

“For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.” Timothy 3:2-5 My ex-husband was diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder shortly after I discovered his “first” affair over 9 […]

Forgiveness for Adultery: Is it Different?

A family member recently told my daughter she wasn’t being forgiving enough of her Father. In the famous words of Indigo Montoya, “I don’t think that word means what you think it means.” This idea that we just have to forgive someone even when they are still in the throws of sinning against us, is a […]

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Happily. Ever? ..After

Rising above all the bullshit after my husbands infidelity

Stop Narcissistic Abuse

Support for anyone suffering from the pain of narcissistic abuse

simple Ula

I want to be rich. Rich in love, rich in health, rich in laughter, rich in adventure and rich in knowledge. You?

MakeItUltra™

Psychology to Motivate | Inspire | Uplift

Cooking Without Limits

Food Photography & Recipes

Dear Divorcée

Endearing Letters To The Divorcée

Life after his affair

the aftermath of an affair

Wag 'n Bietjie

Welcome! Come linger a while..

Rebuilding A Soul

Life through the lens of betrayal trauma and PTSD

try not to cry on my rainbow

Married to a sex addict. Rebuilding a relationship. The recovery journey.

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My Journey of Healing After Betrayal

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