Thoughts from UCAP

The Utah Coalition Against Pornography had their yearly conference this past week.  I decided to go…and then I didn’t…and then I did…and then I didn’t.  I wasn’t sure how triggering this would be for me, or if I could handle it.  In the end, I decided to go, mostly because my company was providing the […]

Becoming

Each year since I separated from my husband I pick OneLittleWord to help me grow and progress for that year. In 2015 my word was FOCUS. I learned to focus on me; Be kind to myself. I started getting regular manicure and massages, something I never did before. I found I liked selfcare! It was […]

So Much Hurt!

Someday All that Hurt Will Meet Justice  – I Want to Be There When it Happens As I have talked to, and read the stories of other women who are going through the same thing I am, I am struck by the commonality of hurt we all share. So much hurt is being experienced by […]

Real Men Don’t Cheat! Or How to Become a Real Man Again if You Do..

Love is a choice not a feeling.  Think about it for just a minute.  When you love someone you choose to commit to them. You choose to serve them.  You choose to have their safety and best interests at heart.  You choose to walk life’s journey with them.  Romanitic love is a flash in the […]

Trauma Response Rescues

Do you know what a “Trigger” is? A “Trigger” is any event that brings up old feelings of panic and danger even if there is no danger around.  It is a PTSD response very similar to what war veterans experience.  One minute you are fine and the next you are not.  the emotional response happens […]

He Said…She Said; The Denial Effect

The one thing keeping an addict from getting into recovery is DENIAL. Denial starts with the declaration, “I don’t have a problem!”  This is usually followed by, “You’re the problem!” Or some variation. And then the trauma begins. The more emphatic the denial by the addict, the deeper the trauma to the wife. I can […]

Drowning in Sadness

Sadness Letter Write a letter to your partner expressing you feelings of sadness and loss.  This should not be a place to express anger so if you feel anger go to you anger letter to add those.  This should be about what makes you sad.  Use phrases like, “It makes me sad that” or “I […]

Abuse, Dressed in a Suit

I used to think that because my husband was in leadership callings in the church that he should have, would have learned how he was supposed to treat his wife.  He should have known better by osmosis, I guess. I believed because he kept all outward appearances of a good, active member of the church […]

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Happily. Ever? ..After

Rising above all the bullshit after my husbands infidelity

Stop Narcissistic Abuse

Support for anyone suffering from the pain of narcissistic abuse

simple Ula

I want to be rich. Rich in love, rich in health, rich in laughter, rich in adventure and rich in knowledge. You?

MakeItUltra™ Psychology

Psychology to Motivate | Inspire | Uplift

Cooking Without Limits

Food Photography & Recipes

Dear Divorcée

Endearing Letters To The Divorcée

Life after his affair

the aftermath of an affair

Wag 'n Bietjie

Welcome! Come linger a while..

Rebuilding A Soul

Life through the lens of betrayal trauma and PTSD

try not to cry on my rainbow

Married to a sex addict. Rebuilding a relationship. The recovery journey.

Etsy Shop for PaperCupcakeWarrior

My Journey of Healing After Betrayal

Ann Voskamp

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mambi blog - me & my BIG ideas

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Bloom

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Ali Edwards

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