Let’s Talk About Gaslighting; Knowing the Signs, and How to Stop It

If you have been cheated on and haven’t heard the terms “gaslighting” or “crazy-making” you are probably still very confused about some of your addict’s behaviors.  In 1938 there was a stage play, and later, a movie called “Gaslight.  The premise of both was a husband who systematically convinced his wife that she was insane […]

From Charm to Harm

What is narcissism? In this landmark book on understanding narcissism you will learn all you need to know about recognizing and identifying if you are a victim of narcissistic abuse.  Narcissism and addiction go hand in hand so be sure you know if you are suffering from narcissistic abuse. The good news is that men […]

EMDR Therapy Intake Appointment

I took a break from therapy over the holidays. For anyone who is recovering from betrayal trauma you will understand why I would need a break. It’s grueling. I was doing something related to recovery every.single.day. I was just exhausted. I needed a break. So I went through the holidays, therapy free. It was glorious. And […]

Sorry. Not Sorry

Our Anniversary would have been Monday. It would have been thirty-eight years. 38. That is a lifetime. My whole life. Mostly wasted on a man who became emotionally and morally bankrupt. This week, for me, has been filled with shame, regret and deep sadness. I am in mourning.  I mourn what we had in the […]

So Much Hurt!

Someday All that Hurt Will Meet Justice  – I Want to Be There When it Happens As I have talked to, and read the stories of other women who are going through the same thing I am, I am struck by the commonality of hurt we all share. So much hurt is being experienced by […]

Narcissism & Sex Addiction: Twins of Pain

“For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.” Timothy 3:2-5 My ex-husband was diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder shortly after I discovered his “first” affair over 9 […]

What I Would Tell My Ex-Husband this Christmas if I Could Talk to Him…

Here I am again, another Christmas, alone.  This is not how I envisioned it when I discovered my husband’s multiple infidelities over two years ago.  I thought by this Christmas that it would all be an ugly nightmare we could begin to put behind us.  It would have been if he had the ability to […]

Phoenix Rising

As I mentioned in another post my ex-husband  burned our family down. He burned me down. He burned us down. There is literally nothing left of me or our family except ashes. Just when I think there is nothing more he can do to destroy our family any further, he finds another way. There isn’t […]

I Accept…

Acceptance Letter Write a letter telling your partner the things that you accept about your life as it is now.  This doesn’t mean you agree with it or approve.  It just means that you accept the way things are at this time. Acceptance is a difficult concept.  It means to acknowledge, yield, and surrender to […]

How You Nearly Destroyed Me…

Anger Letter Write a letter to your partner to share just have their addiction has impacted you.  Be specific and honest.  Do not hold back.  Tell them how angry you are and why. Because of what you did, there are some choices that I will never get to make… that is why I am so […]

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Happily. Ever? ..After

Rising above all the bullshit after my husbands infidelity

Stop Narcissistic Abuse

Support for anyone suffering from the pain of narcissistic abuse

simple Ula

I want to be rich. Rich in love, rich in health, rich in laughter, rich in adventure and rich in knowledge. You?

MakeItUltra™ Psychology

Psychology to Motivate | Inspire | Uplift

Cooking Without Limits

Food Photography & Recipes

Dear Divorcée

Endearing Letters To The Divorcée

Life after his affair

the aftermath of an affair

Wag 'n Bietjie

Welcome! Come linger a while..

Rebuilding A Soul

Life through the lens of betrayal trauma and PTSD

try not to cry on my rainbow

Married to a sex addict. Rebuilding a relationship. The recovery journey.

Etsy Shop for PaperCupcakeWarrior

My Journey of Healing After Betrayal

Ann Voskamp

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Bloom

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Ali Edwards

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