I cannot stress professional therapy enough! You cannot do betrayal trama on your own and your husband CANNOT do addiction on his own. The longer you put it off the harder it will be to overcome this illness. You cannot wait. If you have just discovered your husband’s addiction and it doesn’t seem like a big deal, then that is the most perfect time to seek help – while it’s not a big deal. Do not wait until it becomes a big deal. If it is already a big deal, then you really cannot wait.
And when I am talking about seeking professional help, I am saying that you need someone who is specialized in addiction and betrayal trauma recovery. Please don’t go to just any therapist! Not all therapists are created equal when it comes to addiction and betrayal trauma. They could end up doing you more harm than good. Please start with my recommendations, and go from there. Do you homework. Ask questions. Ask about their program. Ask about their success rates. Ask about their training. Ask how long they have been doing this. Now is not the time to be shy. Your marriage and your own life hang in the balance – it is really THAT serious! So don’t be dumb or casual with your own life. Seek help – immediately!
Everything is at stake. I’m not kidding. I wish someone would have told me to treat this as a life or death situation. If you do not take care of this now…your marriage WILL die.
Don’t worry, it’s going to be ok. You will get through this, but you cannot do it alone, it’s too big for any one person to handle. This is spiritual warfare and you are wrestling and fighting forces that are so far beyond anything in your life experience to handle. Get help. Do it today!