Should I Stay or Should I Go Now?

  Can we talk frankly?  Just us girls?  I am going to tell you what to expect from your husband after you discovery your husband’s addiction or affair, otherwise known as D-day. Why? Because I didn’t get the straight scoop when I was going through this, not from anyone.  Not from my Bishop, not from […]

Let’s Talk About Gaslighting; Knowing the Signs, and How to Stop It

If you have been cheated on and haven’t heard the terms “gaslighting” or “crazy-making” you are probably still very confused about some of your addict’s behaviors.  In 1938 there was a stage play, and later, a movie called “Gaslight.  The premise of both was a husband who systematically convinced his wife that she was insane […]

Financial Speaking…

There are always unintended consequences to everything…especially to addiction. And more often than not, it is to the family of the addict – not the addict himself. A separation or divorce from an addict is especially painful and draining, financially speaking .  I debated about sharing this part of my life with you because it […]

What is Cheating?

My Ex likes to quibble over little things that do not matter. He has done this throughout our marriage to deflect the conversation from any real understanding of feelings to arguing over semantics.  Think of Bill Clinton’s definition of what IS is and you will have an idea of what it is like to have […]

Everything Does NOT Happen for a Reason, So Stop Saying That!

“Well, everything happens for a reason.” My friend says with a sigh. I know she means well. The comment is meant to bring me comfort, and help her feel that she is connecting with my pain, on some level. It is the sort of thing people say when they don’t know what to say. But […]

Thoughts from UCAP

The Utah Coalition Against Pornography had their yearly conference this past week.  I decided to go…and then I didn’t…and then I did…and then I didn’t.  I wasn’t sure how triggering this would be for me, or if I could handle it.  In the end, I decided to go, mostly because my company was providing the […]

Sorry. Not Sorry

Our Anniversary would have been Monday. It would have been thirty-eight years. 38. That is a lifetime. My whole life. Mostly wasted on a man who became emotionally and morally bankrupt. This week, for me, has been filled with shame, regret and deep sadness. I am in mourning.  I mourn what we had in the […]

So Much Hurt!

Someday All that Hurt Will Meet Justice  – I Want to Be There When it Happens As I have talked to, and read the stories of other women who are going through the same thing I am, I am struck by the commonality of hurt we all share. So much hurt is being experienced by […]

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Happily. Ever? ..After

Rising above all the bullshit after my husbands infidelity

Stop Narcissistic Abuse

Support for anyone suffering from the pain of narcissistic abuse

simple Ula

I want to be rich. Rich in love, rich in health, rich in laughter, rich in adventure and rich in knowledge. You?

MakeItUltra™ Psychology

Psychology to Motivate | Inspire | Uplift

Cooking Without Limits

Food Photography & Recipes

Dear Divorcée

Endearing Letters To The Divorcée

Life after his affair

the aftermath of an affair

Wag 'n Bietjie

Welcome! Come linger a while..

Rebuilding A Soul

Life through the lens of betrayal trauma and PTSD

try not to cry on my rainbow

Married to a sex addict. Rebuilding a relationship. The recovery journey.

Etsy Shop for PaperCupcakeWarrior

My Journey of Healing After Betrayal

Ann Voskamp

My Journey of Healing After Betrayal

mambi blog - me & my BIG ideas

My Journey of Healing After Betrayal

Bloom

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Ali Edwards

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